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» mamaof4boyz1girl - Uninvited wedding guests

In response to Uninvited wedding guests posted by blendparenting:

Does the groom to be have a relationship with your children? Were they close growing up?

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» mamaof4boyz1girl - Uninvited wedding guests

In response to Uninvited wedding guests posted by blendparenting:

You are probably going to have differing opinions on this one, but my feeling is: If the groom does not have a personal (read friendly) relationship with your children then I see no reason why he would invite them. If they were children living in your home and other children would be at the wedding my answer would be different.

I'm not big on "obligatory" wedding invites anyway. Weddings are expensive, it is his day, he should invite those people HE feels would enhance the day for HIM. Oh...and those people his mother tells him to invite LOL

Consider also...who is paying for this wedding? Maybe he was limited in the # of people he was permitted to include.

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» mamaof4boyz1girl - Uninvited wedding guests

In response to Uninvited wedding guests posted by blendparenting:

Well now, see that is a little different. In my previous post I said "if the children are living in your home my answer would be different". Everyone in the home should be invited unless there is a special stipulation such as "no children". I'm sorry it hurts your feelings that your children are not invited, how does your husband feel?

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» gmai8 - Adult Children at home

My girlfriend and I are talking about getting marry. My concern is her twin daughters. They're getting ready to graduate from high school and it does not seem they have any real plans for the future. I own a house and my girlfriend lives in an apartment. She has not said directly but it seem she wants her adult daughters and herself to all move in with me after we marry. Any comments would be welcome

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» mamaof4boyz1girl - Adult Children at home

In response to Adult Children at home posted by gmai8:

Will the girls be going to school? Working? At 18 many "children" are still at home, as long as you feel they are being productive it shouldn't be a problem. Make sure you lay some ground rules first, BEFORE you marry so there are no misunderstandings about what you expect in your home.
I hope this helps, good luck to you!
Cynthia

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» gmai8 - Adult Children at home

In response to Adult Children at home posted by mamaof4boyz1girl:

Its seem to be up in the air if they will be going to college or tech school in the fall. They are not looking for any jobs thus far. I told the mother I would rather wait to see what her girls were going to do before marriage. Honestly, they seem lazy. Up until recently the mother would have to wake them up every morning to get up and go to school and then drive them because they would miss their bus. I told the mother, if you can't get up to go to school, you can't get up and go to work.

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» mamaof4boyz1girl - Adult Children at home

In response to Adult Children at home posted by gmai8:

You sound like you have your head on straight gmai8. If you don't feel ready to take on her children as they are (figure worse case scenario)then best to wait until they get on with their adult lives. Although you always run the risk of them wanting to move back home when they realize how hard it is to make it on their own. Some blended families (and intact families for that matter) have 40 year old adult children bouncing back and forth between Mom and living on their own. There are no guarantees but making your expectations known to all is a fantastic way of protecting yourself!

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