Divorce

» tayderde - disagree on how we have and will raise our children

Hi I have a 11 year old boy and my boyfriend has a 15 year old daughter.
We have been struggling with the discpline because his daughter went thru a divorce with him and her mom not wanting her in her life any longer. He keeps treading water because he feels his daughters mother will try to get custody of her because she has been getting into trouble lately. Skipping school, drugs, and alchohol. I am really frustrated because he wont do much other then ground her and take her to counseling. I understand she maybe hurting, but this is not a exceptable way for her to deal with it. He wants to change the rules know that his daughter has gotten into trouble and cant be responsible. I am really confused and frustrated. I love this man with all my heart, I want to spend the rest of my life with him. He just keeps telling me we have to get thru these 3 yrs. That if we let her mom get custody she put us in financial ruin and make our lives miserable. I need some help on how to deal with this. Am I supposed to just listen to him, let it go if this is how he wants to raise his daughter? If anyone can help I would appreciate at greatly..
Thank you

-- posted by tayderde