I was determined to make the blending process as painless as possible for my son.
As a parent I knew that my choices needed to be made very carefully so that my son would feel safe and secure. When my current husband and I decided to marry we included my son, who was two at the time, in as many aspects of our courtship and wedding as he wanted. My husband made my son a priority. As a matter of fact, he often says that he fell in love with Casey long before he fell in love with me.
Kory took the time to get to know Casey. He learned about his likes and dislikes. He planned fun and interesting activities to do together. In short, he built a history with Casey. They created wonderful memories, which they love to share to this day.
Although I know it must have been very hard on Case at the time of the divorce, the positive side of the situation was the love and acceptance he found in his stepfather. Today my son is almost a man. He’ll soon be sixteen. He is tall, strong and reliable. His greatest joy is bringing happiness to others. He has a contagious smile and a wonderful sense of humor. He is well adjusted. Casey has five younger siblings and is a fabulous big brother.
To successfully blend a family takes hard work. It is not for the weak at heart. It is not for the selfish. The most important rule in parenting is selflessness. If you want to succeed in any family as a parent you have to put the needs and feelings of the children before your own.
