Sometimes even the best-laid plans are overridden by a force much greater than you are. A baby planned or unplanned is always a blessing.
How do you explain to your spouse that a new baby is on the way, when you had previously discussed having a baby and decided it was best to wait? How do you help your blended family adjust to the idea of a new baby when they are still in the delicate bonding process? How do you make everyone feel important and appreciated when you are feeling needy and lonely yourself? How do you meet the needs of all your blended family members when a little extra care is what you need?
First, relax and take a deep breath. Circumstances are what they are. There is no way to turn back the clock now. Rejoice! A new baby is on the way and there is no greater love than that between family members and a newborn baby. Your blended family will take their cues how to act from you. If you seem sad, scared and full of despair you can bet they will view the new baby as a burden and may resent the baby. If you take some time to prepare how you will deliver the news then they will view the situation for what it truly is, an unexpected blessing.
- Share the news with your spouse first. Without fear of interruption, give him time to digest the information and answer any questions he has.
- Discuss together how and when to tell the children. When sharing news of a delicate nature timing is everything. You need their full attention and the time to answer questions and allay fears.
- Focus on the positive. A new baby is coming, the rest will work itself out.
- Make extra time for bonding experiences. Nine months passes quickly, make time for each of the children in your blended family to complete the bonding process before the added stress of the new baby becomes a reality.
- Ask for help when you need it. Neighbors and family are often more than happy to help entertain the older children, or prepare meals when you need to rest, all you need to do is ask.
Above all else, take the time to enjoy and pamper yourself during this wonderful stage in life, you deserve it. Next week join us when we discuss how to work with children who are not accepting of the idea of a new baby. Related articles: Adding to My Blended Family
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